Resilience isn’t one thing: it is a set of skills. You don’t need to do or have all of them, but the more you have, the better your odds of withstanding life’s ups and downs. But what does it mean to be resilient?
Some people call resilience “protective factors” because they can, indeed, keep you protected from the inevitable challenges that everyone must face. We’ll all deal with disappointment, frustration, irritation, and setbacks.
The more tools in your toolkit, the better you’ll be able to find the right one for the particular job at hand.
The image lists about eight skills that can help to build up your resilience.
Harness Your Ability to Problem Solve
Be Willing to Adapt and Be Flexible
Foster Good Social Support: Friends or Family
Use Your Sense of Humor: Laugh at Life’s Frustrations
Self-Confidence: Know and Use Your Strengths
Maintain Optimism and a “Can Do” Attitude Toward Life
Cultivate Emotional Awareness and Good Communication Skills
Use Self-Control and Respond Wisely to LIfe’s Changing Circumstances
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If you’re struggling with not feeling very resilient and would like support, shoot me an email, and let’s look at what’s going on together.
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Check out this awesome video by Beakus on Vimeo that breaks it all down:
The healing benefits of nature + stillness are immeasurable, especially for sensitives. Taking time to reconnect with oneself is an investment in your own wellbeing.
May this simple message serve as a reminder to take the time to slow down, breathe, and come home to the beauty and truth of your experience.
Highly Sensitive People, or HSPs are often people who feel a lot, give a lot, and struggle a lot as a result of this predisposition. Finding HSP Therapy in Asheville can be crucial to your finding the gifts of your sensitivity and the boundaries that will keep you safe.
There is also an overlap between HSPs and people-pleasers, or self-sacrificers. Since we feel so much, we can often pick up on what other people are feeling or needing. And since we don’t want anyone to suffer, we’ll often step in prevent others from feeling discomfort, to our own detriment.
I recently read the 1996 National Bestseller The Highly Sensitive Person: How To Survive When the World Overwhelms You by Elaine N. Aron, PhD. Although I had known that this book existed for several years, I had only recently made it a priority to read, and only wish that I had done so sooner!
As a Highly Sensitive Person, or HSP, myself, I found Aron’s work to be both comforting and insightful, and I would highly recommend this accessible and informative book to people who suspect that they may be highly sensitive, love someone who is highly sensitive, or work in any healing capacity with the highly sensitive.
If you are seeking HSP Therapy in Asheville, or anywhere in the state of North Carolina, contact me today, and let’s get started.